I have noticed increasing numbers of women over thirty asking where all the good men who want a committed relationship are? And I have decided to give my insight and opinion on the subject.
First: The men are out there they are working and surviving just like everyone else however they have gotten increasingly cynical and dishearted by a generation of women that were taught they don’t need a man therefore have treated these men as disposable.
Easily replaceable as a pair of shoes and causing these hard working men to give up on dating because they are tired of being financially, emotionally and spiritually used by increasingly uncaring narcissistic selfish women who care only about themselves and what they can get from them rather than how they can love and give to them as well.
The women of this generation have been lied to by society at large. Told they should be men’s equals in every aspect.
In actuality, life is not a competition but rather a cohabitation with each sex possessing their own strengths and weaknesses, which are meant to complement their partner not to compete or overpower them.
The key to understanding how to gain the long term commitment you want ladies is to take all the garbage you have been taught about the need to force equality and throw it out with the garbage and start over with the eye toward real balance rather than a artificial equality.
True equality lies in understanding of purpose in this reality. Man’s purpose is to be the head of the family. The provider, protector, the one to set the course and lead the way.
The woman’s purpose is to nurture, to support the man, and make it possible for him to do the things he needs to do to provide,protect, and be the trailblazer for the family.
The woman is the confidante, caregiver, emotional anchor, spiritual bedrock the man stands upon. She is the mother, sister,daughter,lover,friend, and matriarch of the clan. Her position is important because without her, the man is like a loose sail in a storm. Without grounding, stability, or emotional strength. All of which women provide.
Men represent the patriarch, husband,son,father,brother, lover, and friend to the woman. Men carry the seed of life while women carry the power to actually give birth to that life.
Each has their place and purpose. Neither can exist successfully without the other regardless of what anyone has told you. Further, neither is superior to the other, but both have their place in the scheme of things.
Once you understand this dynamic, then you have taken the first step toward finding the committed relationship you seek. But this is just the first step.
Second: You must be willing to commit fully to someone and accept them as they are not as you want them to be. What does this mean? It means we are all human, and no one is perfect regardless of what attributes they possess.
We have all been hurt, physically, emotionally, and spiritually . You must be willing to accept the man as he is flawed and all. As well as going into the relationship as the only one you want or need for the rest of your life. And mean it. Or this relationship is doomed before it has ever begun.
Once you establish your true desire and understand you aren’t being diminished in any way but simply assuming the place you have always been meant to be in. Then you must convey this to the man you focus on and tell him you desire and heart sharing your real motivation for the future.
Once you have done this and prove you mean it, you will be amazed at his transformation and how his attitude will be changed.
You see, you have just become everything he has wanted, hoped for, longed for his entire life. You have just given him purpose and his life meaning by placing him in the position he was born to fulfill.
Conclusion: Though it has seemed impossible to gain the things you have sought, including love, companionship, validation, attention, caring, loyalty, and sincerity.
What you will find is that once you give it and understand the facts I have laid out above, you will see how effortlessly those things will come to you. You become the man’s equal by complementing his attributes.
There is a reason that they call women the men’s better half. You are to parts of a whole. Once you truly understand this, then you will understand completely what unconditional love truly means.
And you will have a true committed relationship with a man who will sacrifice anything for you because you complete him.
Women's Self Esteem And Sexuality 