The Question Of Selfishness Over Fidelity

It never fails to amaze me that women can justify the fact that just because they were not promiscuous before marriage it  equites to a hall pass on demand to choose a man and have sex with them to fulfill some perceived slight in regards to a disparage in the number of sexual partners she had before she made a commitment .

I have heard countless stories in which a wife decides quite selfishly. I might add that they (deserve and need) to have sex with another man besides their husband.

And just spring it on the unsuspecting man saying they all ready made up their minds and it will make the marriage so much better when in reality it 99.9 % of the time just blows up the marriage and it ends in divorce .

The truth is monogamy isn’t something you can just turn on and off like a light switch.  If you make a commitment, it’s expected to be a lifelong commitment.   Anything less is no commitment at all.

Selfishness on the part of the wife leads to this breakdown of the nuclear family.  Women look around and decide they either aren’t getting something they perceive as an experience they deserve. 

Or decide they want to change the relationship in midstream and completely discount the feelings and concerns of their spouse. 

It’s purely self-serving and in most of the stories I’ve heard on this subject when the husband follows suit the wife gets upset and rebels proving they knew their actions were wrong and thought as long as it was just them doing it, it could be justified.


Conclusion: This (Grass is Greener Syndrome)  has become an epidemic in a society that holds the nuclear family in contempt.   As selfishness rises, love and commitment wane.

The only ones who could truly value color are those who can actually see it.  Just as the only one who truly loves another is the one who truly loved them to begin with.  Without love, it’s easy to just do whatever makes you happy regardless of who else you hurt.

A life without love is no life at all.