How Husband’s Should Respond To Infidelity

Having listened to countless stories of wives Infidelity, I have noticed a number of over reactions of their husband’s.  I think some attention needs to be leveled at this serious issue.

In most of the stories, the men seem to act as beta males crying, vomiting, and generally exhibiting traits of weak individuals who lack the will to lead their families . 

Rather, they allow their spouse to take advantage of their apparent weakness, which in my opinion leads to the seeking of their woman force man who possesses the strength which they sorely lack.

The issue in Western society is a lack of leadership.   Fathers of the previous generation did not teach their boys the lessons on what it men’s to be a man.

This generation lacks the drive and determination of their fathers.  Due to this lack of intestinal fortitude, they leave their women with a leader to the family. 

This lack of strength actually subconsciously causes their wives to fear that their mean can’t protect and provide for them.  It is in my estimation is the impetus for the infidelity in their spouses as they search for a stronger man to fulfill what their husband’s can not.

The husband’s response in the majority of the stories I have heard were to freak out, cry, vomit, and then to run away from their home and cheating wife.

Oh , their are a smattering of men who actually man up and take revenge on the wife and adultery partner.   However, it was the exception rather than the rule. 

The rest ran away, refused to talk to their wives.  And then started over somewhere else rather than to resolve the situation as me. 

To take charge and to be the leader of their family.  Instead of beta males crying in the corner.  Which was the impetus for the problem to begin with.

There is an old adage ( lead, follow , or get out of the way). I leader does so not with words, but instead with deeds.  You lead by example.  And, if you love someone, it should be unconditional.

Am I condoning Infidelity?   Of course not. However, if you love someone, you act with compassion, caring, and understanding.  However, you also act with strength and leadership, and you are concise and measured in your actions.

Irrationally is part of a reaction rather than acting.  All actions should be considered carefully, and then act in a rational measure way.

Conclusion: Men act, they don’t get acted upon.  Calmness of spirit is created by having confidence in your abilities to handle any situation that arises.

It’s the difference between being a leader or simply going with the flow.  Allowing your woman to push you around because you have no idea what it means to be a man, husband, or the head of a family.