A Difference in Perspective

I have noticed a distinct difference in views and expectations between how men view relationships and how women view them.

Men view relationships as their mates, giving emotionally.  Hugs, kisses, signs of affection and caring.  Generally, this stems from how their mothers treated them as children.   It was through these actions that men as boys experienced love.

Through their mothers making feeding them, doing things for them… they felt love.  As such as adults, those same men long for a woman that will show them the same care and that their mother did.

Men need physical actions as signs of love.  However, women need emotional signs of love.   They also crave financial security like that of a father.  As such, every woman you encounter, especially online, will expect you to be financially responsible for their well-being.

If this is not possible, they see it as you not caring and will immediately shun, disrespect, and berate or cease talking to you.  Their view is that if you don’t love them enough to take care of them financially, then you don’t love them.

They need emotional signs of caring, and they see financial support as their father provided as their sign of love.  Quite literally, both genders are seeing love from totally different perspectives.

Conclusion:  Due to these totally different viewpoints, most online relationships and many offline relationships fail.  Men are physical creatures.  Women are emotional creatures. 

Two vastly different love perspectives.   As such, they at times simply can’t provide what their partner requires, not because they are necessarily unwilling.  But rather, they don’t even understand what the other requires in the first place.

Hence, the saying ” Men are from Mars , and Women are from Venus.”  It is this inherent difference that has created all the problems in the relationships of women and men.  Physical versus emotional to different perspectives to the idea of relationships.