Introduction

In a world where strength is often misunderstood, it’s crucial to distinguish between healthy dominance and harmful control.

Many people confuse being the leader in a relationship with being overbearing or abusive, but true dominance—especially in a loving relationship—is rooted in respect, consent, and emotional intelligence.

This article explores the critical difference between being a dominant partner and being a bully or abuser, while challenging misconceptions about “alpha” behavior and leadership within families.

Being Dominant in a Loving Relationship

True dominance is about protection, stability, and leadership—not control or fear. A dominant partner takes on responsibility and leads by example, often acting as an emotional anchor in the relationship.

The dominant role, when grounded in love and mutual respect, empowers both individuals and fosters deep trust.

“The best leaders are not those who seek power, but those who take responsibility.” – Unknown

In relationships where dominance is consensual, it includes clear communication, clearly expressed boundaries, mutual respect, and a priority placed on emotional safety.

In dynamics involving power exchange—such as in BDSM—dominant partners often engage in aftercare, regular check-ins, and clear negotiation. They understand that leadership in love involves just as much listening as guiding.

The Misconception of the Alpha Personality

The “alpha” personality is frequently distorted by media and pop culture. Many associate the term with physical power, loudness, or emotional detachment. In reality, a true alpha is not the loudest or most aggressive in the room.

Instead, they are the calmest, the most dependable, and the most protective.

“An alpha male is one who takes care of those he loves, not one who dominates them through fear.” – Modern Relationship Wisdom

The alpha ideal is about leading by example. It’s about loving and caring enough to place yourself between those you love and the dangers of the world—emotionally, mentally, and physically.

A true alpha supports and stabilizes, doesn’t belittle or intimidate. They inspire others through action, consistency, and love.

Bully and Abuser: The Opposite of Dominance

A bully is not a leader—they are a controller. A bully seeks power through fear, coercion, and manipulation.

An abuser weaponizes love to maintain control, often isolating their partner and undermining their self-worth to keep them emotionally and mentally dependent.

Unlike a dominant partner who encourages growth, a bully causes deterioration. Dominants engage in consent; abusers ignore it.

Dominants communicate and listen; bullies shut down conversation or use gaslighting to control the narrative. While a dominant leads with compassion, a bully leads with fear.

“Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” – Osho

The damage done by bullies and abusers is often long-lasting and profound, especially when masked as “tough love” or “leadership.”

In truth, there is nothing loving or strong about instilling fear in your partner.
Consent, Respect, and Emotional Health

The core elements that differentiate healthy dominance from abuse are consent, respect, and emotional well-being. In a loving relationship, dominance operates within a space of mutual agreement.

There is respect for each other’s independence, and emotional safety is prioritized. Communication is not only encouraged—it is essential. A dominant partner will check in, make space for vulnerability, and ensure the emotional needs of both parties are met.

In contrast, abuse is defined by the absence of these qualities. There is no consent—only control. There is no mutual respect—only hierarchy.

Emotional health is not supported—it is weaponized. A bully dictates, demands, and disregards their partner’s emotional reality, often using silence, anger, or violence as tools of control.

Dominance, at its core, is rooted in service to the relationship—not the ego. It says, “I will lead us forward safely,” not “You will obey me without question.” That distinction matters deeply.

Conclusion

The difference between being dominant and being abusive is rooted in intent, consent, and character. A dominant partner steps up, not over.

They guide without suppressing. They offer support without suffocation. They build bridges rather than burn them.

In contrast, bullies seek to crush the will of another, often disguising control as love or strength. This false display of “alpha” behavior is rooted in fear and insecurity—not power.

Being] dominant is not about standing above your partner, but beside them—a shoulder to lean on, a rock to rely on, a voice of steadiness in chaos.

“To lead is not to command, but to walk first into the fire.” – Ancient Proverb

Further Reading

• The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
• The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (for understanding consensual power dynamics)
• Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft (understanding abuse dynamics)
• No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover (on emotional maturity in men)
• Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson (for building secure emotional bonds)

Final Word:

Being the head of a family or relationship doesn’t mean barking orders or ruling with an iron fist. True leadership in love is expressed through patience, protection, and partnership. It is rooted in service, not dominance. It is shown in action, not force.

Using control, fear, or manipulation to dominate your partner is not leadership—it’s abuse. Healthy dominance is a form of love that protects, uplifts, and nurtures.

It walks ahead not to be superior, but to clear the way.

“The greatest strength lies not in the power to control others, but in the ability to lift them up.” – Unknown

Introduction

What happens when the boundaries of marriage begin to blur? As open relationships and consensual non-monogamy gain cultural traction, some argue that they offer a healthy alternative to traditional commitments.

But others believe these shifts signal something far more consequential: the collapse of the monogamous marriage. In this post, we explore the hypothesis that the rise of open marriage doesn’t just diversify romantic possibilities—it fundamentally undermines the very concept of monogamy.

The Hypothesis: Open Marriage Destroys the Monogamous Marriage

The core of this hypothesis is that open marriage and monogamous marriage are not simply coexisting relationship models but competing ideologies.

The normalization of one may directly lead to the deterioration of the other. Here’s how:

1. Erosion of Commitment Norms

Traditional marriage is based on sexual and emotional exclusivity. When society begins to normalize open relationships, this exclusivity is no longer viewed as essential.

The expectation of forsaking all others—once a cornerstone vow—starts to seem arbitrary or even oppressive. The very structure of monogamy becomes destabilized, its rules reframed as negotiable rather than foundational.

2. Instability Through Comparison

Open marriages introduce the idea that no single partner can or should fulfill all needs. This sets up a subtle cultural pressure: if others can explore desire freely while maintaining a “committed” relationship, why shouldn’t you?

Monogamous couples may begin to question whether they are missing out or whether their loyalty is misguided. Such doubts can erode relationship stability and satisfaction.

3. Societal Influence and Imitation

Cultural exposure to open marriage models via social media, podcasts, and mainstream media repositions monogamy as one choice among many.

The more these alternative relationships are championed, the more monogamy risks are being seen as an antiquated or limiting institution. For future generations, this could mean a shift away from monogamy as a default—and possibly a sharp decline in its cultural relevance.

4. Undermining the Role of Jealousy and Boundaries

Jealousy, in traditional monogamous frameworks, is viewed as a natural emotional response and even a protective mechanism.

Open marriages often treat jealousy as a flaw to be overcome, challenging the emotional parameters within which monogamous relationships function.

This difference in emotional philosophy can be jarring, suggesting to monogamous partners that their natural boundaries are a sign of immaturity rather than a legitimate foundation for intimacy.

5. Redefinition of Marital Success

Historically, a successful marriage has been one of enduring fidelity and mutual commitment. In open relationships, success may be measured by personal freedom, individual growth, and fluid boundaries.

These competing definitions can make the monogamous marriage seem restrictive by comparison, especially to younger generations who prioritize self-expression over permanence.

Conclusion

The monogamous marriage has long been seen as the cornerstone of social and familial stability. Its survival hinges on shared cultural values around exclusivity, commitment, and mutual sacrifice.

The emergence of open marriage, while perhaps liberating to some, introduces a philosophical and structural threat to monogamy. By redefining what marriage can look like—expanding it to include multiple partners, fluctuating boundaries, and a reimagining of loyalty—it alters the social contract that has traditionally governed romantic partnership.

Over time, these redefinitions could dilute the cultural strength and aspirational power of the monogamous bond. If marriage means everything, then it arguably means nothing. Thus, open marriage may not just coexist with monogamy; it may be the very force that renders it obsolete.

Further Reading

• “The Case Against the Sexual Revolution” by Louise Perry
• “Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage” by Stephanie Coontz
• “The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating” by Eric Anderson
• “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá (for contrast)
• Psychology Today articles on consensual non-monogamy
• Pew Research Center: Trends in Marriage and Cohabitation
• “What Love Is: And What It Could Be” by Carrie Jenkins

Final Word:

The redefinition of traditional marriage in the wake of open relationships may feel like an evolution in human intimacy, but it comes at a cost. The long-term consequences could include the dissolution of societal trust in permanence, the erosion of family stability, and a culture increasingly ambivalent about commitment.

After the fact, we may find ourselves in a world where traditional marriage is no longer broken—but forgotten. Once redefined, some institutions can not be reclaimed. The question we must ask is not only what we gain by opening marriage, but what we may irreversibly lose.

Introduction

Have you ever felt powerless in the face of gaslighting, manipulation, or emotional attacks?

Do you struggle with toxic people who twist reality or push you into unnecessary conflicts? Stoicism, an ancient yet timeless philosophy, offers a powerful toolkit to reclaim your mental space, emotional balance, and personal power.

It teaches one profound truth: while you can not control others, you have absolute authority over how you choose to respond—or not respond. This blog explores how Stoicism helps you rise above personal attacks, regain clarity, and eliminate the hold detractors have over your life.

Stoicism, a tool for self empowerment

At the core of Stoicism is the unshakable truth that the only thing we truly own is our response. This idea, rooted in the teachings of ancient philosophers like Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, and Seneca, is as relevant today as it was over two millennia ago.

“You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius

In an age where narcissistic behaviors—such as gaslighting, demonization, and emotional manipulation—are increasingly common, Stoicism becomes a sanctuary of psychological resilience.

Stoics don’t aim to control the world; they aim to control themselves. They understand that engaging with irrational people in irrational battles only pulls them into a chaotic web of suffering and distraction.

Gaslighting and Demonization: The Narcissist’s Tools

Gaslighting is the insidious process of making you doubt your perception of reality. Demonization is a broader tactic—turning others against you by painting you as the villain, often unjustly and manipulatively.

Both are designed to unseat your confidence, disrupt your peace, and manipulate your behavior.

“When someone is properly grounded in life, they shouldn’t have to look outside themselves for approval.” – Epictetus

Stoicism offers a practical answer: you do not have to engage. You do not have to prove yourself to those committed to misunderstanding you. In fact, choosing not to respond can often be the most powerful response of all.

Stoicism and the Power of Non-Reaction

One of the most empowering tenets of Stoicism is this: you may not have control over what others do, but you have absolute control over how you respond.

This is your power—untouchable, immovable, sacred.

“It is not things themselves that disturb us, but our opinions about them.” – Epictetus

When you are insulted, you can pause. When you are lied about, you can breathe. When you are manipulated, you can calmly walk away.

This isn’t weakness—it is inner strength rooted in discernment. The Stoic knows that truth will outlast deception, and dignity will silence chaos.

Avoiding Useless Conflict: The Stoic’s Way

Narcissists and manipulators thrive on emotional chaos. They bait others into drama, arguments, and emotional displays they can use to justify their narrative. Stoicism trains you to see the bait for what it is—and not take it.

“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.” – Marcus Aurelius

Instead of engaging in a battle of egos, the Stoic cultivates calm detachment. They don’t need to win the argument. They have already won by not becoming what they despise.

Conclusion

In a world that often values reaction over reflection, Stoicism teaches us a profound lesson: true power lies in restraint.

When you detach from the need to be understood, defended, or vindicated, you liberate yourself from the control of others.

By embracing Stoic principles, you no longer have to fight every battle. You choose which ones are worth your energy—and more often than not, the answer is none at all.
Stoicism allows you to:

• Recognize manipulation without absorbing it.
• Remain calm in the face of personal attacks.
• Reclaim power over your mental and emotional well-being.
• Remove toxic people not by confrontation but by irrelevance.

Through this lens, Stoicism becomes not only a method of self-preservation but a strategy for a life of peace, clarity, and purpose.

Further Reading

• Meditations by Marcus Aurelius – A cornerstone of Stoic philosophy and personal reflection.
• Discourses and Enchiridion by Epictetus – Practical teachings on self-mastery and virtue.
• Letters from a Stoic by Seneca – Insightful letters on the application of Stoicism to daily life.
• The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday – A modern take on how Stoicism helps overcome challenges.
• How to Think Like a Roman Emperor by Donald Robertson – A psychological approach to Stoicism and healing.

Final Word:

Utilizing Stoicism in your personal life can radically transform how you relate to others, especially those who are toxic or manipulative.

It empowers you to stop explaining, stop defending, and stop absorbing negativity. Instead, you walk away—not in defeat, but in victory.

You become immune to the games, the slander, the drama. In their place, you gain peace, presence, and the quiet power of a mind no longer enslaved to emotional warfare.

“He who angers you conquers you.” – Elizabeth Kenny

When you live Stoically, you remove yourself from the cycle of toxicity not with rage or retaliation but with silence, wisdom, and strength.

Authors Note:

“The only power a person has over you is the power to grant to them.”
-H.R. Beebe

Introduction
In a world where instant gratification is just a click away, the structure of the traditional family is undergoing seismic shifts.

The nuclear family—once upheld as the cornerstone of society—is now facing unprecedented pressures from digital platforms, hookup culture, and a disposable view of relationships.

As our culture drifts further from long-term commitments and deeper into the waters of temporary connections, what becomes of monogamy, stability, and the values that once held families together?

The Historical Foundation of the Nuclear Family

The nuclear family—comprised traditionally of two married parents and their children—rose to prominence post-World War II, especially in Western societies.

This structure was lauded for its perceived stability, economic efficiency, and emotional grounding. Influenced by religious, cultural, and nationalistic values, the nuclear family became emblematic of societal order.

Historian Stephanie Coontz notes in The Way We Never Were that the 1950s idealization of the family was

“Less a reflection of how families really were than of how we wished them to be.”

Even so, that model persisted because it served a purpose: creating a strong societal fabric rooted in responsibility, legacy, and interdependence.

Digital Disruption and the Rise of the Disposable Relationship

With the advent of the internet and the proliferation of social media, everything changed.

Platforms like Tinder, Instagram, and more recently, OnlyFans have created a new relationship economy—one driven by validation, performance, and monetized sexuality. The emphasis has shifted from building together to self-promotion and short-term fulfillment.

Hookup culture, fueled by dating apps and online anonymity, has devalued long-term connection. Sociologist Lisa Wade, in her book American Hookup, describes how casual sex has become the default for many young adults, leading to emotional burnout and a culture where intimacy is viewed as a liability.

The “grass is greener” mentality dominates digital interaction. With endless profiles, images, and curated personas, commitment seems less attractive when a better option might just be a swipe away.

As psychologist Barry Schwartz notes in The Paradox of Choice,

“The more options people have, the less satisfied they are with their decision.”

This dynamic is catastrophic for monogamous, lasting relationships, where sacrifice and patience are essential.

OnlyFans, Sexual Capital, and the Family Unit

Platforms like OnlyFans represent a commodification of sexuality that bypasses traditional moral frameworks. What was once private is now monetized for public consumption.

While proponents argue this is empowerment, critics argue it undermines intimacy and long-term relationship building.
The impact on relationships and families is notable. When intimacy becomes a transaction, trust erodes.

Many partners report feeling betrayed by digital infidelity or competition with online personas. In a conservative or traditional framework, where fidelity and modesty are central values, these shifts have been especially jarring.

Temporary vs. Traditional: The Core Conflict

Temporary relationships are defined by their lack of long-term vision—pleasure without purpose, intimacy without investment. Traditional monogamous families rely on foundational principles like trust, responsibility, mutual growth, and legacy.

The digital mindset, shaped by algorithms and endless content, trains individuals to seek novelty and abandon difficulty.

Marriage, however, requires confronting challenges and choosing love over convenience. When a generation is taught to replace rather than repair, traditional families suffer.

Hypothetical Solutions: Can We Return to Roots?

To counter the effects of the digital age on family dynamics, a multi-pronged approach could be necessary:

• Digital Literacy in Relationships: Educating young people on how social media distorts perception and impacts emotional health could recalibrate expectations.

• Cultural Revalorization of Commitment: Media, education, and communities can reframe monogamy and long-term commitment as aspirational rather than archaic.

• Faith and Philosophy: Returning to spiritual or philosophical frameworks that prioritize discipline, family, and legacy can offer grounding.

• Tech-free Zones and Traditions: Encouraging families to reclaim time away from screens fosters connection and presence.

Conclusion

The digital age has redefined almost every facet of human interaction, and nowhere is this more visible than in the erosion of the nuclear family.

Once built on permanence, shared purpose, and resilience, the traditional family unit now competes with a cultural tide of individualism, monetized intimacy, and fleeting digital connection.

The casualties are not just broken homes, but also lost identity, unfulfilled relationships, and a generation unsure of what true intimacy even looks like.

Yet, hope remains. If we are willing to question the direction we’re headed, if we teach the next generation the value of presence over performance, and if we work collectively to restore meaning to commitment, the traditional family might not just survive—but evolve.

Further Reading

• The Way We Never Were by Stephanie Coontz
• American Hookup by Lisa Wade
• The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz
• Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport
• “The Rise of OnlyFans and the Changing Sexual Marketplace” – The Atlantic
• “Hookup Culture and the Decline of Intimacy” – Psychology Today

Final Word:

In the relentless rush of the digital world, the values that once shaped family life have taken a backseat to immediacy, attention economies, and self-interest.

The ramifications are clear: rising divorce rates, fewer marriages, declining birthrates, and an emotional emptiness that no algorithm can fill.

The temporary mindset, though alluring in its novelty, is a poor substitute for the enduring strength of a committed family.

If society is to heal and rebuild, it must begin at the root—the family—and it must do so with intention, awareness, and a willingness to swim against the digital current.

Stress is a constant companion in day to day life.  In this fast-paced digital world, it has become unavoidable given that we are being forced to work more and more with less and less downtime.

Thus, people look for distractions in their sparse moments of downtime.  As such, they have turned to ancient techniques such as yoga and meditation . 

Yoga is the physical act of stretching.  With meditation being the spiritual act of stretching the mind and spirit.  The key to meditation is to separate your conscious mind from the stress of the work a day grind.  Projecting into another setting.

In that place, you can focus, concentrate,  destress, and learn stillness and, through it, gain clarity.  This is achieved through visualization.  Though what you perhaps are not aware of is the better you get at this ability of visualization. 

What you are actually doing is creating a (Pocket Dimension) and are actually astral projecting your consciousness into that pocket dimension for the duration of your meditation existing literally in two separate locations.

The first is where your physical body dwells.  However, after your mind creates and visualizes the location.   Then your spirit goes and resides in that pocket dimension for the duration of your meditation session.

In so doing, you release physical stress by separating your consciousness from it.  You will find you lose track of the temporal field in that place because it’s a dimension separate from the physical realm.

You will dwell for the duration in two separate environments.   As well as be aware if you choose to do so of both locations simultaneously.  However, the goal is to remove yourself from physical stress. 

The mind is the creator of the secondary environment.   As such, it can shield your consciousness and actually allow you to release the stress entirely.  

As your spirit lets go of the physical connection to those stresses.  You physically have a physical body will as well.  Your muscles and other stress signs will diminish until they vanish entirely.

Conclusion:  Bi-location is one more tool in your arsenal to combat the pressures inflicted on you by this digital reality. If practiced regularly you will find a true peace develop in knowing you have a way if only for a while to separate from the physical pressure and abuse of daily life finding at least for a time a place of peace and a place just to be without worry.

The first mistake people make is to assume the perfect person or relationship exists.   It doesn’t.  We are imperfect people regardless of how you look, what you know, or where you exist in the social order of things rich or poor.

The truth is true. Soul mates are made through interaction and mutual respect and unconditional love.  Trust, loyalty, caring, and spiritual support are all components of this growing process. 

Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows.  The rain comes too.  Though without the rain, you have no flowers.  As well as without the storms, you wouldn’t value those days in the sun. 

Each has its purpose in teaching you to value the complete experience of life.  There is no such thing as the perfect day.  Rather, each day is an experience to be learned from, savored, and then let go in order to move forward and grow. 

We don’t live in a vacuum, but we need companionship to survive and flourish.   Your partner is that for you.  You are the showers for their parched soul.  You are the sustenance for their staving spirit.  You are their comfort when their minds are troubled and they are alone.  They are your peace in this chaotic world. 

They  represent your security in a time of unrest.   They become your other half.  The word ,”Love,” is a meaningful word that does not encompass the whole of the feeling toward each other.  In truth, there is no phrase or word that can fully convey the depth of what you two feel toward each other. 

Unconditional love is the closest you can get.  Self-sacrifice is just an action you  develop toward each other… it’s just a natural response.   You make each better people. 

If death is the absence of a partner, and the loneliness that , that would instill.  Then you represent life to each other… for you both encompass every good thing that stands polar opposite to that emptiness and absence of meaning.

Conclusion:  Soul mates are developed through the interaction with another soul on a deeper level.  Beyond the superficial,  the material.  This is a truly spiritual experience.  

Once achieved, it’s like the difference between talking about living and actually living.  It’s oxygen for the soul.  It’s like a dehydrated man given as much water as he can drink.

Finding the person who is willing to go on this journey with you is like waking up from a bad dream and finding your beloved there to comfort your every fear.

It is a once in a lifetime experience.   We are none of us perfect.  We are all flawed and imperfect.  In order to truly gain your soul mate, you must be willing to meet them where you and they are and grow together on this journey as lovers, friends, and family.

This is the key to gaining your soul mate and achieving true happiness.  

Today, everybody is looking for a lasting relationship.   Most younger women turn to older men because they believe they are more stable and caring than the younger ones. 

While this is true.  Being with an older man has its own unique set of challenges .  Many have been through a lot and are struggling with getting older, and the body changes accompanying those changes.

Many are just looking for peace and someone to take care of them after decades of struggle and sacrifice .  They need someone to love them because the real curse is that men suffer in silence . 

Being expected to be the  strong one and feeling the effects of loneliness.   The effects of being used for a number of things. 
Money, sex, emotional support, always taking but rarely giving to them.

Being a man is to walk your life alone.  Always expected to serve in silence because that’s your place.  To take care of your partner, your children.  But who takes care of him?

Conclusion:  If you seek an older man.  Then, you need to  understand he has suffered mightily and sacrificed his whole life.  He was never allowed to show weakness, to show his emotions, or had someone just take care of him.

Men were raised to lead.  Leading is a thankless job.  He was raised to be the provider to give without complaint.  Though, he longs to be provided for.

He has spent a lifetime giving everything he is without reservation and receiving nothing in return, though he never expected anything except perhaps gratitude and maybe love.

So if you are a young lady looking for an older man, remember he spent his whole life alone.  If you love him, give to him, and take care of him.  You will never find a more loyal, caring person and giving man in your lifetime than him. 

Having met all of these, and the question is, after pursuing these professions, is it possible for a person to return to a monogamous lifestyle?

In this day and age, the idea of morality and monogamy seems old fashioned, and the question of do these professions make being with just one person either difficult or impossible?

I personally have seen quite a few ladies online looking for a long-term relationship.  However, with such a background, it makes it difficult to commit for fear of these women straying for work or simply out of need. 

Society is having a moral crisis.  With women believing they can have sex anytime they feel like it with the idea that if they become pregnant, they will simply get an abortion.  

This has led to a society of promiscuous individuals without a moral compass.  We see women who enter relationships only to cheat at a whim.  At times, passing off children as their partners’ child.

Or rationalizing that their profession calls for an immoral lifestyle and if the man protests he is labeled unreasonable or has an ego problem.  They also call him weak for being unable to simply share for the good of employment.

Conclusion:  It is impossible to predict how women engaged in such professions will respond to the commitment of a long-term committed monogamous relationship.

As such, it is always better to discuss it before being committed.   Perhaps a prenuptial document can be the guarantee required to keep everybody honest.

Though, to be fair, not everyone is so tempted.  With many women craving commitment and are willing to do anything to achieve it.

However, with the amount of money to be made, it is a powerful reason for some to through caution to the wind for a good payday.  As such, you must establish ground rules and consequences for such actions.  Put it in writing, and if necessary, enforce it. 

For the most part, people in general are fixated on the material world they live in.  Whether it’s sex, or money, or material possessions they center their existence on the physical or other aspects of their existence and create limitations for their own character and ultimately their growth and maturity as human beings.

Most people fail to see the value in growing their spiritual, emotional, and intellectual portions of themselves, effectively stunting their growth as mature human beings.

Failure to meditate, taking time to ponder, to think, to explore their inner feelings leaves them lacking when they are confronted with relationships and not only how they feel about others.  But also, not understanding how they feel about themselves.

If they don’t take time to educate themselves intellectually, they leave blind spots in their education.   As well as blocks them from pursuit of avenues of learning, understanding,  and possible avenues of opportunities in wealth they could not follow due to lack of understanding and aptitude.

Seeking out a spiritual connection with reality, the Divine, as well as others, separates you from the very essence of what this place is as well as who we are at our deepest core of our being.  It separates us not only from nature but also puts up barriers between us and the rest of humanity.

Conclusion:  Thus, we see that to grow, we must not just embrace the very base of our nature , the material.  Rather, we must explore the complete spectrum of our experience as human beings. 

As well as learn what it means to live , truly live in this reality, and experience the complete nature of our true nature’s as humans.

Trust and loyalty are the cornerstones of a long-term relationship along with fidelity and love.  The problem is that most people are only out for their own selfish needs.

This leads to disrespect,  mistrust, and cheating.  Most see nothing even wrong with their actions.  As such, a lot of men simply swore of dating and merely sleep around. 

Men , for the most part who choose this path because they have been hurt in the past , lied to, and cheated on by a woman.

Women who do this in many cases see themselves as entitled.   You see a similar sense of entitlement online with videos of them demanding compensation for simply showing up as if they were royalty or a celebrity. 

Asking for pre – and post date compensation.   Others say if a man doesn’t offer to pay for whatever, then they aren’t worthy.  Some say they want millionaires or billionaires.

While others simply see cheating and lying as part of fulfilling their needs and have little to no consideration for men at all.

It’s the same narcissism that allows them to contact random men on the internet and ask for money just because.   They have no care or consideration for men at all.  It’s all about what they need or want.

Conclusion:  In order to have a lasting, successful long-term relationship, there has to be loyalty,  trust, love, commitment, and monogamy.   As well as caring,  giving.  Without these bare minimum requirements, last relationships become impossible.

As well as the desire to sacrifice yourself for your partner.  If you can’t do this, then you can never have a lasting relationship.   You will prioritize your needs above others.  Doing this in the end will ensure you will end up alone when you are older.