Men tend to be simply creatures.   Feed them, take care of them, and love them.  If you do these things, he is happy.  However, today’s women are doing a lot of things that represent red flags to guys.

Such as having a Only Fans account.   Or other sex site accounts.   While I understand it represents a way to keep money coming in, most men have an issue with other guys seeing their woman’s body.

Further, these accounts also require interaction with other men.  Some have VIP accounts with video calling .  In some cases meet ups, and having strangers appear in videos with them.  This is a huge red flag for a guy looking for a monogamous relationship.

The next type of woman that represents a huge red flag is the “Boss Babe,” type that wants to be the dominant in any relationship.   Controlling the man and his interaction with her.  For most men, they would rather be alone than deal with that.

This leads us to the next group of women the narcissistic, manipulative, and those who simply use men for their own purposes.

These women’s only purpose is to use, control, and blame men for every problem they actually have or make up in their heads. 

These women are the women who randomly contact men and think just because they are women that entitles them to ask you for money even if they don’t know the man they are,asking and put a guilt trip on him to try to force him to just give her money.

If they are also in a relationship,  try to force him to give her whatever she wants.  It is this type of woman that demands expensive dates.  As well as expects the man to pay pre – and post date expenses. Completely entitled lacking any morals, character, or compassion. 

The narcissistic type thinks she can force the man to do what she wants by withholding her body from him.  She is the one who demands that he does exactly what she wants, making demands that are not only controlling but also completely unreasonable.

For example, after a man works a 10 hour shift and comes home, he must ask before he can eat dinner that was already prepared.   Both this type and the boss babe type are prone to cheat, believing their man too weak to stop her from doing so.

Conclusion:  All of the above women, as well as ex-porn actresses, represent red flags to men who started out looking for a long-term relationship.  

Many have experienced at least one of these types, and they are the reason he isn’t dating again because he refuses to have to go through the emotional turmoil of having to deal with it again.

In 2024, it’s as important as it was centuries ago that is trust.  People search their whole lives looking for a soul to trust.  In friendship,  it is they most valuable asset.

As for relationships with a significant other,  it’s mandatory.   I have spoken to countless individuals who have told the same sad story.  That is of being betrayed and cheated on.

Thus, trust remains the most vital element in human interactions.   While love, honesty, and empathy are high on the list .  Without trust, none of it is worth anything.

Loyal friends and partners are worth their weight in gold.  Having someone at your back you can rely on is paramount to forming lasting relationships.   As much now as in centuries past.

This trait has been in short supply and sorely needed to make lasting bonds.  With the advent of the internet, it became much easier for a partner to betray you. 

Finding a person to cheat with has become as simple as the click of a button with social platforms such as Instagram, Facebook,  and TikTok. 

Women have found a cornucopia of lovers lined up to fulfill their fantasies.  As such relationships have become cheapened.  Their lasting value diminished by availability.

Especially in 20, something men who possess the ethics and morality of an alley cat.  They have no qualms of betraying their girlfriends with all her friends.  

Conclusion:  Trust, is a commodity once found in this digital age should be kept as the treasure that it is because in this day and age trust and loyalty are a rarity and if found should be protected and cherished above all things. 

For once lost, can never truly be rebuilt.  This is the downfall of most friendships and the majority of modern-day relationships.

In the day and age, people have become very narcissistic,  controlling,  and focused on themselves at the exclusive of almost anything else.

This is evidenced in their almost cult like support of abortion.  Rather than simply using contraceptives in the correct way.  They want to simply do what they choose without a thought as to the ramifications.  

Afterward,  kill the unborn fetus rather than simply being responsible for their actions in the first place to prevent the need for the abortion in the first place.  Or even abstaining.

Thus, we understand there is a rash of the lack of those having very little empathy, compassion, or even love for others.  Their thoughts have become self-serving, lacking any care for anyone, but themselves.

This is magnified online with women looking to enter into online relationships.   However, the real purpose is to say they are in a relationship.   However,  what they really want to do is use the man as a source of funds.

They use words like “caring” and “loving,” neither of which do they understand or mean.  What they actually want is a sugar daddy to fund their life.  So they don’t have to work.  Some, rather than enter into this sort of agreement, may sell naked pictures of their bodies.

However, the purpose is to fund their life styles without the need to give of themselves.   In essence, it’s mental prostitution,  selling the idea of love and a relationship without actually ever being in a relationship.

To the unsuspecting men who suffer from loneliness.   It seems as though they are in a relationship.   As such, these men act in accord with this idea and may even become emotionally attached to the online woman.  They are generally lonely , sincere, and committed.

The women can range from simply using them for funding, to looking for  long term financial commitments,  looking for a sugar daddy, or even a catfish ( a fake , not even necessarily a woman at all).  Their only actual purpose is financial gain regardless of who they harm.

This happens a lot in the digital age.  The net result is a lot of men who are tired of simply being used by women for their own needs. 

Devoid of any actual caring themselves.   A lot of women who get cheated on and dumped because the men have been hurt in the past and are mentally protecting themselves from that pain again.  By hurting the women they think are out to hurt them.

The men may simply check out and stop relating in any capacity with women feeling they all simply use men for their selfish needs.  Without any caring for the men at all.

Conclusion:  What has caused such a complete breakdown of caring in women, to such a degree they now simply use men as a resource?  Seeing them as a commodity rather than a human with feelings and needs themselves?

I’d like to say it is mental illness.  Or a criminal need to rob the males of their possessions.  

While I’m sure there are a percentage of these women who this does apply to, such as scammers and male con artists who catfish as women to simply steal from other men.

What I believe is a true issue is a crisis by design that was formented as part of a plan to destroy the nuclear family.  Separating men from women in ways that they pit one gender against the other.

The children often are forced to live in broken homes .  As such, both men and women grew up without either mothers or fathers.   Both long for the nurturing they were deprived of growing up.

It manifested in very different ways in men and women.  The men long for a nurturing female who will take care of them as a mother figure. 

They long for a closeness they were denied as a child.  Their loneliness as an adult stems from that lack of a nurturing female presence in their lives.

The females long for the strong, protective, loving male father figure who will not only protect them and make them feel safe.  But, also the male provider who takes care of all their worldly needs.

Both men and women are attempting to fulfill these needs.  Online, it translates into men looking for love and caring.  Women are looking for a financial provider to care for them financially. 

Which is why younger females have been looking for the security of older men.  Who take on the father figure role they crave.  Both sexes are simply trying to fulfill the psychological needs they have been denied since childhood.

The power dynamic shifts wildly when dealing with online relationships.   As women and at times men catfish unsuspecting people and use those people’s emotions to manipulate money for them. 

It’s the oldest con in the book using their feelings to manipulate them into a position to extort money from them both by using their loudness and desire for companionship.   At times, they also mock threats such as legal issues that could occur if they refuse to cooperate.

The ingenious part of this is that the person doing the manipulation can remain anonymous and use a false persona as the person conducting the sting on the unsuspecting mark.

Many times, the person performing the con will be catfishing completely.  As a man pretending to be a woman and a woman pretending to be a man.

The Internet has become the mean streets for the lawless.  As such, they have little compulsion to act ethically and will prey on the weak and unsuspecting.

With extreme threats of violence and legal woes unless the mark agrees to acquiesce and pay the con artist to not allow such heinous things occur in effect charging protection money for the marks cooperation.

Once so targeted and successful.   They keep coming back using fear , intimidation, or the love of the mark for leverage to continue taking money from the mark indefinitely.

What makes this an insidious scam is that the unsuspecting mark believes what they are experiencing is real. It’s all just a play setup solely to extort money from them on a regular basis.

Generally, it’s allowing the mark to believe they are in a relationship with a model, ex porn actor, or other desirable individuals.   Their by bypassing normal logic and inhibitions to get what they want, which is money.

Occasionally, they use other such figures as military members, doctors , financial investors, and other persona.  Though the goal remains the same to separate the mark from their money.

Conclusion:  The internet has become the next wild west for criminals, con artists, scammers, and others who prey on those who are weak, naive, lonely, or unsuspecting.   As such, it becomes perfect targets for such criminal elements.

The answer is having the critical thinking skills and common sense to question everything.  And never be afraid to call them on such cons.  Walk away regardless of your feelings. Because generally, your intuition is correct. 

I have noticed a distinct difference in views and expectations between how men view relationships and how women view them.

Men view relationships as their mates, giving emotionally.  Hugs, kisses, signs of affection and caring.  Generally, this stems from how their mothers treated them as children.   It was through these actions that men as boys experienced love.

Through their mothers making feeding them, doing things for them… they felt love.  As such as adults, those same men long for a woman that will show them the same care and that their mother did.

Men need physical actions as signs of love.  However, women need emotional signs of love.   They also crave financial security like that of a father.  As such, every woman you encounter, especially online, will expect you to be financially responsible for their well-being.

If this is not possible, they see it as you not caring and will immediately shun, disrespect, and berate or cease talking to you.  Their view is that if you don’t love them enough to take care of them financially, then you don’t love them.

They need emotional signs of caring, and they see financial support as their father provided as their sign of love.  Quite literally, both genders are seeing love from totally different perspectives.

Conclusion:  Due to these totally different viewpoints, most online relationships and many offline relationships fail.  Men are physical creatures.  Women are emotional creatures. 

Two vastly different love perspectives.   As such, they at times simply can’t provide what their partner requires, not because they are necessarily unwilling.  But rather, they don’t even understand what the other requires in the first place.

Hence, the saying ” Men are from Mars , and Women are from Venus.”  It is this inherent difference that has created all the problems in the relationships of women and men.  Physical versus emotional to different perspectives to the idea of relationships.

The difficulty of having an online relationship is many and varied.   Among these are first and foremost, making sure the person they say they are is the actual person and not a catfish.

Second, there is a lack of closeness and intimacy.  Not necessarily sex.  Just the lack of having someone physically with you can be a lonely proposition.

Sex is definitely in the ballpark.  But kissing and hugging guild closeness.  Further, without that connection, you are never sure of fidelity.  Cheating is running rampant nowadays.

The other elephant in the room is the tendency for women to constantly request financial support without providing anything in return. 

Apparently, if they send a picture that is sufficient to reciprocate after asking for huge sacrifices from the men.  Even when men do help them substantially.  They act as though it’s just to be expected .  Completely discounting those sacrifices . 

Even going so far as to ask for more relegation of their part to the role of online ATM machines.  The narcissistic tendencies run wild as they believe just showing up is payment enough for any sacrifice the man makes.

Conclusion:  Online relationships are a boon for the woman.  While the man must sacrifice and hope for the best.  Like most things in life, there is an unbalance in the power dynamic, allowing the women to control everything while the men are just living wallets.

Unconditional love and forgiveness are two of the most powerful forces in human experience.

They have the profound ability to heal, transform, and reshape not only individual lives but also the fabric of society.

When we embrace these practices, we initiate a ripple effect that can ultimately lead to a more compassionate and peaceful world.

Unconditional love is a selfless form of love that is given freely without expectation of return or conditions placed upon it.

It is an unwavering acceptance and a deep-seated benevolence towards others, regardless of their actions or beliefs.

This kind of love is transformative because it allows individuals to feel seen, understood, and valued just as they are. It creates a safe space for growth and connection, breaking down barriers of judgment and separation.

The power of unconditional love becomes even more evident when paired with forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the act of letting go of resentment, anger, and thoughts of revenge toward someone who has wronged us. It does not mean condoning harmful behavior or forgetting the hurt caused; rather, it is a conscious decision to release negative emotions that bind us to the past.

Forgiveness liberates the forgiver just as much as it offers a chance for redemption to the one who is forgiven.

When we forgive, we reclaim our own peace and well-being. Holding onto grudges and bitterness can take a toll on our mental and physical health, leading to stress and a host of related issues.

By choosing to forgive, we alleviate this burden and open ourselves up to healing and happiness. This personal transformation can significantly reshape our reality, influencing how we interact with the world and perceive our place within it.

On a larger scale, unconditional love and forgiveness have the potential to reshape the world by fostering empathy and understanding among diverse groups of people.

In a global context fraught with conflict and division, these practices encourage reconciliation and bridge-building. They remind us of our shared humanity and the universal desire for dignity and respect.

Moreover, when communities and nations adopt principles of unconditional love and forgiveness, they lay the groundwork for sustainable peace and cooperation.

Historical examples, such as post-apartheid South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, demonstrate how forgiveness can be institutionalized to heal a nation’s wounds and move forward from a legacy of injustice.

Conclusion:  The practice of unconditional love and forgiveness is a potent tool for personal and societal change.

These acts of compassion and release not only improve individual lives but also have the capacity to alter the course of human history.

As each person learns to love without condition and forgive without hesitation, we collectively create a reality that reflects the highest ideals of humanity.

Through these powerful expressions of our shared values, we can envision and work towards a world where understanding and peace prevail over animosity and strife.

Anybody who has dated online has run into this issue someone pretending to be someone they aren’t.  It’s a fact of life.

The problem is what would motivate an individual to use someone else’s photo for the purpose of defrauding, scamming, or just to perpetrate a deception.

The sad part is there are a lot of nice people that are lonely and really looking for a human connection that get taken advantage of by unscrupulous individuals who’s primary purpose is to take advantage of their loneliness to either manipulate, or steal from them.

Furthermore, this behavior is far more prevalent than one might assume at first glance.  Just like other scams, they are just laying in, waiting for the next innocent soul to passby to use for their own nefarious purposes, and nine times out of ten, it is for monetary gain.

The real victims are people who may be introverted and use social media as their only real link to the outside world and as a result of experiencing this kind of abuse may pull away further believing that they can trust no one from such a negative encounter.

And in extreme circumstances turn to substance abuse, other self harm or even suicide as a last resort for pain they can’t rid themselves of in any other fashion.

In this day of instant communication, the practice of catfishing is a cancer in society.  It reflects the worst side of the human condition. 

It presents the very worst of the narcissistic control that criminals exhibit toward the general population, seeing them as a resource to be tapped to satiate their own needs at the expense of the rest of the world.

The emotional , financial, and societal damage caused by this practice in the final assessment is incalculable due to the fact that we don’t have a way to gather reliable data regarding this phenomenon.

Conclusion:  We as a society must understand we are all responsible for ourselves.   We can’t rely on others for our emotional well-being. 

Further, we must be more proactive to verify those we allow close to us, and while loneliness can be a powerful motivator to override our natural protective instincts.

It’s crucial that we do not allow a lack of connection to override our critical thinking and our common sense.   Because it’s better to be alone and secure in yourself.  Then, to be a victim to someone else who only has their own self-serving goals in mind and to them, you don’t matter at all.

I have heard a number of Redit stories regarding women who have been in a committed relationship for extended periods of time deciding its ok to cheat on their significant other as long as they tell them first regardless of how their partner responds to their revelation.

I want to address this idea with a few of my own.  First, a committed relationship is just that committed.   Their is no expiration date to monogamy.  

And it ludicrous to believe that after a period of time monogamous they earn a hall pass to stray outside their marriage.

I believe these women, for the most part, have soured on marriage, and this is just a way to end it without just saying as much.

There are no conditions where this action would be accepted or condoned.  Men (most men)  are territorial creatures and react very badly to another man having sex with their spouse.

In fact, the chances of him committing violence is high.  Further, there is a good chance he will retaliate and then divorce the woman in question regardless of the length of the marriage.

In truth, the idea of a hall-pass or taking a break from a monogamous relationship is tantamount to simply disrespecting their spouse and cheating.  Further, it’s done in the worst possible way by telling them they are going to do it.

The idea that noticing your spouse of your intent absolves you of the responsibility of your infidelity is not only ridiculous but is patently false and should be rejected out of hand as a fools errand.

If you wish to experience people outside of your relationship, that is, of course, your right as a free individual.  However, what you don’t have is the right to dictate others’ lives.  This is where you step over the line.

Conclusion:  Entering into a monogamous relationship is not for everyone.  However, once doing so, it is expressly that it will remain monogamous.  

Trying to change the nature of a relationship after the fact is not only disrespectful in the extreme.   It is also not likely to work out due to the fact that when you agreed to enter into the relationship, you agreed to a traditional relationship.

If later you feel you can not honor your commitment to your spouse, then the correct action is to tell them and divorce your partner. 

Rather than trying to force something, your spouse may not want down their throats and expecting them to be happy about it.

Common sense and respect, along with loyalty, are some of the cornerstones of an adult relationship.   Whether you stay in a relationship or leave it.

In the past 2 years since I separated from my ex, I have been approached by a number of women.  Most are saying they are looking for a looking for a long term relationship.

However, this seems to translate into them wanting something from me.  Whether it’s money, gift cards, food, or even clothes, sex and rent money. 

The truth is, in my opinion, as a man, I am simply a resource to be tapped for whatever financially they are lacking in their lives.   I have taken a great deal of my time and effort to converse and delve into these women’s lives.  The recurring them is what I can do for them.

A number of them were sex workers.  And though I don’t judge anyone for surviving.  At the same time, I didn’t seek them out.  I have simply been trying to move on with my life and find a trustworthy partner to spend my life with.  What I didn’t sign up for was another dependent.

Apparently, women nowadays believe men are simply a commodity to be utilized for personal gain.  I think relationships are supposed to be just that a relationship.   Not just to use the other person as a resource to tapped whenever they need something.

In the generation of the narcissistic focus, it’s a rarity to actually meet someone who is interested in just you for you.  Who sets out to take care of another’s need simply because without any ulterior motives.

In a time of blatant selfishness, it is the selfless heart that is the rose among the thorns. 

Conclusion:  Unconditional love is as rare as a white diamond.  Or a person who simply gives without explanation.   Those individuals are the finite precious  few that once encountered will never be forgotten.