I have watched countless cheating spouse videos where the man’s spouse lost respect for him and then either cheated on him behind his back or in some stories to his face.
Confronting him by themselves or with their adultery partner issue new rules where the woman does what she wishes, and the husband just has to live with it.
Either at the threat of divorce. Or threat of being blackmailed, falsely accused of child endangerment. Or spousal abuse (of course falsely).
In some, the woman’s boss is her affair partner and threatens the husband with imprisonment, financial ruin, or taking away the children if they don’t comply.
The common thread is that all the husbands were beta males. As such, they spent most of their time in tears or vomiting. The fact that they are all beta, at least in my estimation, was the primary contributing fact
Their women would never have attempted infidelity if they knew their men wouldn’t put up with it and immediately retaliate and put them in their place.
Conclusion: Women need strong men who can protect them. If they see you as weak, then they lose respect and take advantage. It’s not about sex its about respect.
If you are a strong man, then the woman in your life will see it and will remain faithful, feeling safe. If you are a weak man, then infidelity becomes much more likely because without respect, the woman simply searches out a man who is strong.
Understanding Infidelity: Exploring The Root Causes
Introduction:
Infidelity, a breach of trust that can shatter relationships, is a complex issue that affects many couples. To truly address this problem, it is crucial to delve into its root causes.
By understanding what drives individuals to engage in infidelity, we can gain insights into how to prevent it and foster healthier relationships.
Lack of Emotional Satisfaction:
One common root cause of infidelity is the lack of emotional satisfaction within a relationship.
When partners feel emotionally neglected or unfulfilled, they may seek solace and connection elsewhere. It is essential for couples to prioritize open communication, empathy, and actively meeting each other’s emotional needs.
Communication Issues:
Poor communication can be a significant contributor to infidelity. When couples struggle to express their desires, concerns, and frustrations effectively, misunderstandings and resentment can build up over time.
By fostering open and honest communication, couples can create a safe space for dialogue, reducing the likelihood of seeking emotional connections outside the relationship.
Sexual Dissatisfaction:
Sexual dissatisfaction can also play a role in infidelity. When one partner feels unfulfilled or desires are not met, they may be tempted to seek physical intimacy elsewhere.
Cultivating a healthy sexual connection, exploring each other’s desires, and maintaining open conversations about sexual needs can help prevent this root cause of infidelity.
External Temptations:
External temptations, such as attractive co-workers or friends, can pose a threat to committed relationships.
It is important for couples to establish clear boundaries and maintain commitment to each other. Building trust and openly discussing potential challenges can help navigate external temptations and strengthen the bond between partners.
Relationship Dissatisfaction:
Overall relationship dissatisfaction can lead individuals to seek fulfillment outside their partnership. Unresolved conflicts, unmet expectations, or a lack of shared values can contribute to this dissatisfaction.
Regularly assessing the health of the relationship, addressing issues promptly, and seeking professional help if needed can prevent relationship dissatisfaction from escalating into infidelity.
Emotional Immaturity:
Emotional immaturity can make individuals more susceptible to infidelity. Those who struggle with managing emotions, lack self-awareness, or have difficulty taking responsibility for their actions may seek validation or excitement outside their relationship.
Personal growth, therapy, and self-reflection can aid in developing emotional maturity and fostering healthier relationships.
Past Experiences or Trauma:
Past experiences or trauma can significantly impact behavior within relationships. Individuals who have experienced betrayal or abandonment may struggle with trust, leading them to engage in infidelity as a defense mechanism.
Healing from past wounds through therapy and open communication can help prevent these root causes from manifesting in destructive ways.
Lack of Commitment:
A lack of commitment to the relationship can pave the way for infidelity. When partners do not prioritize loyalty and dedication, they may be more inclined to seek gratification elsewhere.
Nurturing commitment, setting shared goals, and regularly reaffirming love and dedication can help prevent this root cause of infidelity.
Conclusion: Infidelity is a complex issue with various root causes. By understanding these underlying factors, couples can take proactive steps to prevent infidelity and cultivate healthier relationships.
Prioritizing emotional satisfaction, effective communication, sexual fulfillment, and commitment can go a long way in building trust and fostering lasting connections.
Remember, open dialogue, empathy, and continuous effort are key to creating a strong foundation for a faithful and fulfilling partnership.
Is Narcissistic Behavior A Contributing Factor In Infidelity?
There can be a connection between narcissistic behavior and infidelity, though the relationship is complex and not a simple cause-and-effect.
Some key ways narcissism may contribute to infidelity include:
Sense of entitlement: Narcissists often feel a strong sense of entitlement and a belief that they deserve special treatment and privileges, including the ability to pursue romantic/sexual relationships outside of their primary relationship.
Lack of empathy: Narcissists struggle to empathize with their partner’s feelings and the impact their actions may have. This makes it easier for them to rationalize and justify infidelity.
Need for admiration and validation: Narcissists have a deep need for constant admiration and validation. Infidelity may provide them with a source of external validation and attention.
Difficulty with commitment: Narcissists may have trouble with long-term, committed relationships as they are often more focused on their own needs and desires.
Impulsivity and risk-taking: Some research links narcissism to increased impulsivity and risk-taking behaviors, which can contribute to infidelity.
However, it’s important to note that not all narcissists are unfaithful, and not all individuals who are unfaithful are narcissists.
There are many other potential factors that can contribute to infidelity, such as relationship dissatisfaction, opportunity, poor impulse control, and personal insecurities.
Conclusion: The connection between narcissism and infidelity is complex and multifaceted. While narcissism may increase the risk of infidelity in some cases, it does not automatically determine or excuse unfaithful behavior.
A comprehensive understanding of the individual and their relationship dynamics is necessary to fully assess the contributing factors.
The Root Causes of Narcissistic Behavior
The Root Causes of Narcissistic Behavior
Narcissistic behavior can have several root causes, which are often complex and multifaceted.
Here are some of the key factors that can contribute to the development of narcissistic tendencies:
Early childhood experiences:
– Excessive parental pampering, overindulgence, or lack of appropriate boundaries during childhood can lead to a sense of entitlement and a grandiose self-image.
– Emotional neglect, abuse, or trauma during childhood can also contribute to the development of narcissistic traits as a coping mechanism.
Genetic and biological factors:
– Research suggests that there may be a genetic predisposition or neurobiological factors that can increase the likelihood of developing narcissistic personality traits.
– Imbalances in neurotransmitters, such as dopamine and serotonin, have been linked to narcissistic behaviors.
Social and cultural influences:
– Certain cultural values that emphasize individualism, self-promotion, and the pursuit of status and power can foster narcissistic tendencies.
– Societal pressures to achieve success, wealth, and recognition can also contribute to the development of narcissistic behaviors.
Lack of empathy and emotional regulation:
– Individuals with narcissistic traits often struggle to understand and empathize with the feelings and perspectives of others.
– Difficulty in regulating emotions, such as managing feelings of shame, insecurity, or vulnerability, can lead to the development of narcissistic defenses.
Underlying psychological factors:
– Narcissistic behavior can sometimes be a manifestation of deeper psychological issues, such as low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, or a need to compensate for perceived flaws.
– Narcissism may also be a coping mechanism to deal with unresolved emotional conflicts or trauma.
Conclusion: Development of narcissistic behavior is often a complex interplay of these various factors, and the specific root causes can vary from individual to individual.
Understanding the underlying causes can help in developing effective interventions and strategies for addressing narcissistic tendencies.
Woman with Children And Dating
I have been contacted randomly a lot lately, and I’ve noticed that for the majority of the time, it is from women who are alone for whatever reason Single/Divorced/Widowed and they have children.
The majority are alone because either the fathers bailed, refusing to take responsibility, or their spouses died , unexpectedly leaving them alone and many times without any means of support.
Most Gen Z men won’t take care of another man’s baby. Or has no clue how to be responsible for a child and woman so these women are stuck to survive on their own.
As such, with money or a way to even get it, they resort to randomly contacting people online to try to garner support with the hopes of finding a new daddy for their child and a meal ticket.
And, while this statement seems mean. It is often the only recourse they have short of becoming a sex worker and selling their bodies to survive .
I have spoken to a number of women who have all told the same story to me. If fact I heard the story so much, I began to wonder if it was a scam. However, upon careful research, I have come to believe it the symptom of a generation never taught how to survive on their own.
It is a failure on the part of their family not to educate and instill the life lessons necessary to weather an unforgiving world.
Further, it is a complete failure of an educational system more worried about rules and test taking rather than to instill usable skills, critical thinking, and problem solving abilities required to survive once they graduate.
Many went to college only to gain a huge debt. As well as to study subjects that had no practical application in the real world.
Most are forced to live with family members unable to gain employment. Or unwilling to take the jobs they could get. As such, many are literally starving to death because they can earn enough to survive .
The men of this generation as such simply use them for sex . And , refuse to take responsibility for them or their children.
Conclusion: These women are desperate. They have been betrayed by society and the parents of the men of generation Z. They are suffering… but their children will ultimately suffer the most.
Random Love
I have noticed in the last 10 months that there have been many instances of random contacts online over multiple social platforms by apparent lonely women, some single, some widowed, some even divorced all looking for love.
Apparently, they rolled the dice and randomly contacted me, saying they needed either comfort, a long-term relationship, or a trying to get money from me.
Upon speaking to them, some common factors became apparent. Those widowed were generally in their early thirties. Most had at least one child. The majority were out of work living with a family member. Whether aunt, sibling, or grandparent.
Those divorces were because of infidelity. They stated their spouse cheated on them and was either indifferent or abusive. They two had at least one child and were in a similar work situation as the widowed women.
The single women, though a few had children most, were without children and in their mid to late twenties. And infidelity seems to be a common thread.
All seem somewhat sincere. Yet, there must have been a desperation at the heart of randomly contacting a stranger rather than taking their chances with people they know or going to a club, church, or even meeting someone at a store.
All have the same desperation, but some seem to be trying to get money for food or daily expenses rather than to get a job or even apply for social services. Seems like a lazy person’s solution.
I have interviewed each to find out what could drive a person to simply flip a coin figuratively speaking and just contact a random person to try to find love, and I have a few insights.
One: These people are at the end of their ropes and feel they have nothing to lose as they either have failed face to face or are stuck with children and feel that this is the only viable way they can achieve their hopes and dreams of finding a person to either love them or at the very least support them financially.
Two: This is a scam , these are not women but male scammers posing as women to try to scam unsuspecting lonely men out of money.
Three: These are women who have issues whether they can’t find work. Don’t want to work. Or possibly have drug or alcohol issues and can hold a steady job and, as such, need a man to support their habits.
Four: These are introverted women who don’t have the ability to go into public and create a lasting connection because of their social anxiety.
Five: Due to their past choices such as careers IE. Porn stars, Sex workers, Strippers, or nude models average men might see them in a negative light and not want to start a long term relationship for fear either of a inability to be monogamous or possibly disease. Or the possibility that others will ridicule them for being associated with such women.
Conclusion: As listed above, there are a number of possibilities why a person would seek out a random lover. As such, caution is the better part of valor.
And, as in all other decisions in your life, reason, careful vetting, and common sense will help to weed out the problems, and it is possible to build a lasting connection in such an instance.
However, use caution and verify all the facts on these individuals and never accept them at face value. Some may be real and genuine. However, some aren’t.
Caution and prudence, as well as patience, will separate the chaff from the grain. And the real from the scammers and criminals and users.
Don’t let your heart overrule your head.
How Husband’s Should Respond To Infidelity
Having listened to countless stories of wives Infidelity, I have noticed a number of over reactions of their husband’s. I think some attention needs to be leveled at this serious issue.
In most of the stories, the men seem to act as beta males crying, vomiting, and generally exhibiting traits of weak individuals who lack the will to lead their families .
Rather, they allow their spouse to take advantage of their apparent weakness, which in my opinion leads to the seeking of their woman force man who possesses the strength which they sorely lack.
The issue in Western society is a lack of leadership. Fathers of the previous generation did not teach their boys the lessons on what it men’s to be a man.
This generation lacks the drive and determination of their fathers. Due to this lack of intestinal fortitude, they leave their women with a leader to the family.
This lack of strength actually subconsciously causes their wives to fear that their mean can’t protect and provide for them. It is in my estimation is the impetus for the infidelity in their spouses as they search for a stronger man to fulfill what their husband’s can not.
The husband’s response in the majority of the stories I have heard were to freak out, cry, vomit, and then to run away from their home and cheating wife.
Oh , their are a smattering of men who actually man up and take revenge on the wife and adultery partner. However, it was the exception rather than the rule.
The rest ran away, refused to talk to their wives. And then started over somewhere else rather than to resolve the situation as me.
To take charge and to be the leader of their family. Instead of beta males crying in the corner. Which was the impetus for the problem to begin with.
There is an old adage ( lead, follow , or get out of the way). I leader does so not with words, but instead with deeds. You lead by example. And, if you love someone, it should be unconditional.
Am I condoning Infidelity? Of course not. However, if you love someone, you act with compassion, caring, and understanding. However, you also act with strength and leadership, and you are concise and measured in your actions.
Irrationally is part of a reaction rather than acting. All actions should be considered carefully, and then act in a rational measure way.
Conclusion: Men act, they don’t get acted upon. Calmness of spirit is created by having confidence in your abilities to handle any situation that arises.
It’s the difference between being a leader or simply going with the flow. Allowing your woman to push you around because you have no idea what it means to be a man, husband, or the head of a family.
The Question Of Selfishness Over Fidelity
It never fails to amaze me that women can justify the fact that just because they were not promiscuous before marriage it equites to a hall pass on demand to choose a man and have sex with them to fulfill some perceived slight in regards to a disparage in the number of sexual partners she had before she made a commitment .
I have heard countless stories in which a wife decides quite selfishly. I might add that they (deserve and need) to have sex with another man besides their husband.
And just spring it on the unsuspecting man saying they all ready made up their minds and it will make the marriage so much better when in reality it 99.9 % of the time just blows up the marriage and it ends in divorce .
The truth is monogamy isn’t something you can just turn on and off like a light switch. If you make a commitment, it’s expected to be a lifelong commitment. Anything less is no commitment at all.
Selfishness on the part of the wife leads to this breakdown of the nuclear family. Women look around and decide they either aren’t getting something they perceive as an experience they deserve.
Or decide they want to change the relationship in midstream and completely discount the feelings and concerns of their spouse.
It’s purely self-serving and in most of the stories I’ve heard on this subject when the husband follows suit the wife gets upset and rebels proving they knew their actions were wrong and thought as long as it was just them doing it, it could be justified.
Conclusion: This (Grass is Greener Syndrome) has become an epidemic in a society that holds the nuclear family in contempt. As selfishness rises, love and commitment wane.
The only ones who could truly value color are those who can actually see it. Just as the only one who truly loves another is the one who truly loved them to begin with. Without love, it’s easy to just do whatever makes you happy regardless of who else you hurt.
A life without love is no life at all.
Older Wives and Infidelity
I have been watching a lot of YouTube lately. There is a lot of infidelity stories involving cheating older women.
The common themes are that older women as soon as their children leave the home suffer ( Empty Nest Syndrome. ) This being these women decide they are owed some excitement after they have raised children for 20 years.
Generally, as the stories go, most were either virgins when they wed. Or had limited experience sexually and, as such, feel they missed out on the chance to live a little and deserve to (Find Themselves. )
Most are going through or just starting menopause. Their hormones are out of sync, and they are driving them to become extremely sexual. Unfortunately, men of a similar age experience the opposite and slow down sexually.
These women don’t consider that their men spent most of their youth sacrificing everything to support their families. In many cases, as the sole provided for the families. As such, they sacrificed a good deal of their lives as well without consideration for their well-being or needs.
These women in these stories just decide either to take (A time out in the marriage to explore themselves).
Or they get a job and find a temporary or in some cases semi-permanent young lover which they tell their spouse it won’t take away from what they have. And the line usually uttered is its just sex.
They next line generally said it is only a physical thing. While they love their spouses. Though the truth is that these women, at least in the stories, develop an emotional, then physical relationship with their adultery partner.
In a number of these instances, they decide to leave their partners for the new lover. They had become bored by their spouse and had developed the ( Grass Is Greener Syndrome).
A number end in divorce with the husband’s, in most cases, and takes brutal revenge on the lover who stole their wives. The pain of losing a life partner is too great, and they go scorched earth.
In quite a few, these men also take brutal revenge on their spouse for hurting them in such a fashion. I have noticed these men seem to start out as mild-mannered beta males.
Perhaps this is the issue to begin with allowing their women to believe they can say or do whatever they wish with zero consequences.
This may be why they women lose respect for their men. And go looking for stronger men to dominate them either sexually or emotionally.
Makes me wonder if it’s an inherent lack of leadership in the husband’s that prompts these women to stray? In the majority of the stories, this is the recurring theme.
As such, once the husband takes control of the situation. Then the wayward wife suddenly is heartbroken they lost their marriage over their disrespect of their discarded spouse.
Of course, there are a number of women that just over time fell out of love with their spouses due to the stress of raising children and the mundane existence of it all. After all, raising children is a stressful experience, and not all are cut out to be parents.
As such, perhaps a number of these women should have rethought their choices before choosing to get married and start families not after.
There are a percentage of these stories that address married couples that are married a number of years, say 7 to 10. These women decide usually prompted by either single or divorced friends that they should be allowed to have a sexually fling before starting to raise children.
In most of these stories, they sit their husband’s down and tell them they are almost ready to have children. However, they need to get these out of their systems rather than (cheat). They are telling their husband they intend to go take a one-time lover or a temporary lover.
And, it will make their marriages stronger. Once they are finished, they will return to the marriage and will be the most devoted wife they can be for the rest of their lives. Furthermore, this isn’t cheating because they are telling their husbands.
This is utter rubbish, of course. They initially agreed to enter a monogamous relationship and to suddenly decide midstream to change that is a worse betrayal than to just cheat to begin with.
No husband wants to share his woman. Regardless of what anyone says, no man would voluntarily agree to such an arrangement. This idea they would is a complete misunderstanding of what it means to be a man.
Men are leaders by nature. Even the weaker ones. They are wired to protect their families. And to fight any who would try to take it away from them. These women are forcing their men to revert to their primal nature.
This misunderstanding is the basis of the men in these stories going scorched earth not only on the one who tries to take what is his. But to take vengeance on the woman who betrayed him.
It is better not to marry at all than to make a lifetime commitment only to decide sometime up the road for purely selfish reasons to break that commitment and emotionally hurt the person you love.
To do so proves that perhaps you weren’t in love to begin with and you entered into the marriage under false pretenses. Perhaps you settled for someone you didn’t love for financial or other considerations. This is not a reason to enter into a commit you are destined to break.
Conclusion: The idea that cheating isn’t cheating if you tell your spouse first is utter nonsense. The fact is that the moment you decided for selfish reasons to seek emotional and physical experiences outside your relationship, you already committed infidelity. The act is just the culmination of that desire. The thought is the infidelity itself.
When Wives Go Bad: Women Mistaking Kindness And Love For Weakness
Lately, I have been watching multiple videos regarding cheating spouses. In the majority of these, the wives try to force their desires on their husband.
Believing that they are in control of the marriage and can do whatever they wish forcing their will on their partner.
However, what they fail to understand or comprehend is that the husband they believe is so weak and pitiful was simply allowing their wives to have freedom in their marriage because he loved them.
They mistook caring for weakness. This was a fatal error they later came to regret. Generally they stories end with the husband’s revenge on these foolish women in a myriad of hardships.
Most men react badly to being forced into a situation. The problem is women get condescending and either insult and disrespect their men by saying their ego is so weak and fragile. Or call them children.
Both these pronunciations are false. You see, what they perceive as a weakness is actually their masculine nature overriding their caring restraint. Men hold their nature in check because of love.
It a strength men exercise in order to allow their women to have a measure of freedom in a loving relationship .
However, it has little to do with weakness and everything to do with the strength of character and discipline to control their own nature’s for the woman they love.
However, women mistake this restraint for weakness, believing their men are lacking the ability to dominate them and control their actions.
Therefore, they can do whatever they choose, and their weak husband’s will simply accept it because they have no choice or power to stop them.
This is a mistake formulated from a false premise and a lack of understanding of the nature of their men. And, men in general.
Women see what they perceive as (Alpha males) outside their marriage and want to be dominated by these individuals and wish their husband’s were like that and just took them.
But see their men as lacking the ability to do this. Women are attracted by strength. What they fail to understand or realize is that their men possess the same latent ability.
The only reason they don’t just force their will on their spouse is out of kindness and consideration for them because of love.
The men, for their part, take on the roles of husband, father to their children, and lover and provider to their wives and family.
They mask their dominate nature’s controlling them for the good of the family and their spouse in particular.
However, what these women fail to understand is the level of strength, control, and determination it takes to maintain that control over time.
They may see snippets of their true nature from time to time in stressful situations. Such as crisis in the family or arguments with him.
In those times, they get just a glimpse of his true dominate nature temporarily until he remains his composure. Most women miss it because they are caught up. I’m the moment.
However, if they saw it, it would have been a clue as to the possibility of their potential actions should they ever be forced to draw on that dominant nature in the future.
In most of those infidelity stories, after the wives reveal their intent to cheat on their husband’s breaking their hearts, they release the beast, so to speak.
Their husband’s racked with pain and misery revert to their masculine dominate nature’s, and their wives finally realize that the apex predator wasn’t absent, merely dormant. Released by their own actions.
Conclusion: Men , for the most part, are dominated by nature. Their are a portion that are beta or other .
However, most men possess the capacity to be dominated under the right circumstances. And they simply control themselves for the good of themselves, their spouses, and their families.
Never mistake control for weakness. Or kindness, love, caring, peaceful nature for weakness. None of these things indicate a lack of strength or resolve.
The thing you must remember is that the apex predator is always present. The only thing that stops it from taking control is the will of the man possessing that nature.
While unattached men may show traits of a alpha nature. That doesn’t mean the attached men don’t possess it.
They simply control it and hide it for the sake of their family. It’s always present, and if you force the man to let release it, you do so at your own peril.
Never take a man’s love for granted. Or abuse him because you can. Or you main see first hand that your man indeed is a alpha, and can be dominate when it is required.
You have been warned. Rather than hunting for a dominant man outside your marriage, why not encourage your man to be more dominate with you.
He might welcome the opportunity to occasionally release his masculine side. I guarantee you won’t be disappointed. And, it will avert a lot of pain for everyone involved.
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